I present a list of grievances regarding the treatment I have experienced at your hands.
You say my feminism bores you. You say you agree with me when I point out yet another example of sexism, so why do I belabor the point?
You say I should focus on making a difference myself, because you're just one person and you can't change the status quo. When I identify the things you could be doing, you say I'm inconveniencing you and nitpicking.
You say other women don't complain, so why am I making such a fuss? You think all women must agree on the exact nature of their oppression for it to be real, just as all marginalized communities must reach consensus before their complaints are taken seriously.
You say you don't support the oppression of women, yet you participate in events like stag parties, which fuel the trafficking industry. If you don't, you cite your personal distaste for such affairs, rather than their inherent degradation of women.
You say your personal prejudices are nonexistent or unimportant. You think your use of gender-based stereotypes isn't reflective of any implicit bias, or if it is, that there is nothing you can do to change it.
You think words exist in a vacuum, and that you can redefine them to suit your own ends. You call women 'bitches', then act surprised when I protest the use of an insult that is based solely on gender.
You think you should get a say in what I do with my body after you've used it, so you say abortion should be restricted, regulated, or banned.
You say we all have the chance to succeed in life, and if I can't succeed, that's the result of my personal failures rather than having the deck stacked against me. You think I should find some bootstraps because gender isn't a hindrance, yet you simultaneously say that lower-class people don't have as many opportunities as the rich.
You call women's rights, women's work. You put the weight of making changes on my shoulders, and refuse to take responsibility for the things you do every day to perpetuate the patriarchy.
You say I am responsible for my own rights, but I must never forget that you think we are equally oppressed. You say that since I'm fighting for self determination for myself, I should be campaigning to make your life easier, too.
You say I should wait patiently for my turn, because change happens slowly and you cannot accommodate my desire for full humanity right now. When I speak up and try to make myself heard, you accuse me of insubordination and a lack of solidarity.
You insist I always mention we all suffer under the patriarchy even if I'm not talking about your problems. Yet you also claim there are essential, unavoidable differences between our bodies that justify our different positions in society, despite the fact that science has proved we are much more alike than we are different.
You scoff at the evidence I present when I humbly petition to be considered your equal. But you also say I'm so well-read on these subjects, so why can't I answer all your probing questions? You think I should enjoy educating you, and I should make it as easy for you as possible, because you certainly cannot be bothered to pick up a book yourself.
You take your privilege for granted, and throw it in my face when I try to point out why the playing field is not equal, and never has been. You refuse to examine or acknowledge the benefits you get simply for being yourself, claiming that the rights women have never had aren't rights at all but responsibilities, duties and burdens.
You say you're not sexist, so why am I bothering you?
You say you didn't put the patriarchy in place, so why do I expect you to tear it down?
You think the gender-based oppression of half of the human race is not worth your time or attention.
You think I am not worth your time or attention.
If you disregard my complaints, I will not shut up. I will not be silent, and I will not let you treat me as your personal tutor, punching bag, and domestic servant.
I do not need your permission or approval to exist as a full human being.